Behind-Closed-Doors With Narcissists

Behind Closed Doors of Narcissistic Abuse

 

Dark corners expose the underbelly of charming characters’ hideous and manipulative natures. Those who do not experience behind-closed-doors toxicity are never the wiser to the depths of such destruction.

Though we must each own our actions, toxic figures have a way of bringing out the worst in our behaviors and words. Ugh!

In fact, certain noxious entities (such as Sociopathic people) strive to organize particular set-ups to bring about reactions from us which are not part of our ordinary personalities. They use such provocations to gaslight and smear our reputations.

Behind Closed Doors With Narcissists, BBYCGN
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Thus, looking back at our conduct, we realize they submerged us in alien states of consciousness. We might contemplate thoughts as, “why did I do/express those things?”, or “I don’t feel like that was the real me”.

Narcissists and sociopathic personalities easily provoke undesirable responses and/or communications from us because they instill an addiction-like need for their companionship via crumbs they dole out. So, we become puppets under the rush of their presence.

Behind-Closed-Doors With Narcissists

Other reasons for our negative roles surfacing among virulent personalities include:

1). Exhaustion:

Fatigue abounds when destructive figures are present, and during this state, we are in less command of our activities and verbal expressions.

2). Guilt:

Toxic entities generate intense remorse in us because of their pity-plays and also shifting blame (deflection).

3). Cognitive Dissonance:

Relationships with poisonous personas produce a confusing realm of existence. We believe that which is opposite from what we know in the face of our gut instinct. This unsettling condition arouses indecision and uncertainty in our composure.

4). Loss of Identity:

Seedy personalities erode identities, which induces behavior not congruent with our rational selves.

5). Poor Boundaries:

Blurred barriers cause wandering of our core values.

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The Fall, BBYCGN

6). Fear:

Dread of loss excites acting-out or speaking in manners not of the norm. And the threat of gaining something (such as a painful punishment), elicits abnormal conduct on our part.

7). Dishonesty to Ourselves:

When we talk ourselves into believing our performances or assertions are “not all that bad”, it triggers misaligned emotions when deep inside, our conscience is saying, “yes, this is wrong”.

Behind-Closed-Doors With Narcissists

In conclusion, even though discipline of self is of the utmost importance, sometimes more is going on, behind-closed-doors, than what judgements perceive. It is not always a ‘cut and dry’ case.

If we discover we have acted or spoken out of character, let’s do a bit of investigating to identify The who, what, when, where, or why of what is beneath, behind and above the surrounding situation before we judge ourselves, or others.

Luke 8:17

For all that is secret will eventually be brought into the open, and everything that is concealed will be brought to light and made known to all.

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6 Comments

  1. You got it! I am an Empath and tend to attract narcissists! Omg… my whole life is surrounded by these people… and now I am saying no and giving them attitude… power is back in my hands…

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  2. We must do somethin about that, Tamara! After all, a closed door can hide so much more that a Narcissist’s deprivations. Or a more generally mundane diseased past.

    Yes, those, of course, but also mystery, intrigue, and potential delight. Something that captivates the soul and stirs the imagination. A million magical “what if?”s that make the heart flutter and anticipation purr.

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