Gaslighting and Narcissists

Gaslighting and Narcissists, BBYCGN

Gaslighting is one of the Narcissist’s prime functions along with eating, sleeping and breathing.

The Narcissistic Personality is a shrewd projector in using his/her gaslighting techniques to the tune of heaping piles of funky-smelling B.S.. Despite the tale-tale sign of heated stench rising from these fabrications against his/her targets, it is hard to spot this abuse in real time.

Crazy-making strategies implemented by Oscar Winning covert Abusers cause targets to question and second-guess themselves, squashing their self-esteem which thus creates the perception of helplessness and insecurity resulting in the victim’s dependency on the monster.

Gaslighting also serves in preparing the predator’s muddy stage for future Smear Campaigns by making wide-eyed suggestions or remarking that their other-half is crazed, delusional, on hardcore drugs, or even the abuser, themselves.

Diabolical Personalities are always numerous steps ahead of the game no matter how “duhhh” they might look or behave. (Feigned stupidity is yet another tactic in which they use to increase their control over others).

The more subtle their brainwashing, the greater the damage done to their victim’s noggin.

Gaslighting and Narcissists, BBYCGN

Gaslighting and Narcissists

We should learn to respect the unsettling tugging of our intuition with absolute seriousness, even if we cannot pinpoint or explain the reason for the goosebumps trailing along our arms and spine.

Remember, gaslighting and other manipulative schemes we endure within the realms of the Covert Abuser’s control is not about us; it is about these opportunists’ lack of character and absence of humanity.

Narcissistic men and women siphon their hosts’ identities and self-esteem dry, one after the other. We were not their first victims, nor will we be their last.

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  1. One of the things that we are sure about these characters is knowing that behind this mask of extreme security, hides a fragile self-esteem that is vulnerable to the slightest criticism. And that’s where all his arrogance fades. A very complete article to understand them and, incidentally, to be alert. Greetings Tamara.

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  2. Wow….looks like these abusers read the same book and went to a class together. How else can they say the same ‘crazy’ things…despite color or race or country….my abuser put me in mental hospital and told my children I was gonna die!

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      1. In the last hours he has texted me…and of course it’s my fault, last time I saw him was last night when he left me bc I wouldn’t get in his car!

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            1. If he truly is a Narcissist, then No Response to his questions are The Best response. You cannot reason with a Narcissist. In their eyes, they are ALWAYS right. If he is truly a Narcissist, and he’s says ‘he’s sorry, and he will change’, it’s just a ploy to get you back so that he/she can continue to abuse and isolate you.

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                1. A Narcissist can be more readily seen by their ongoing patterns of Love Bombing, Devaluation, Discarding, & Hoovering… not just single abusive actions.

                  You also can listen to your intuition, and see if it’s telling you that things with this person “just don’t add up”, or “something is off”, even if you cannot put your finger on it.

                  Google Narcissistic Abuse – Sam Vaknin- He has much in information about NPD Abuse.

                  I, also, have a massive amount of NPD articles on this blog about Narcissists. The category is: “Monsters”. If you go to Search box, and put in Monsters, they are all there.

                  I am NOT an expert, just been through much experience with them (online & offline) for many years, and their Flying Monkeys!

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                    1. Because they feel entitled to have anyone they want, even apart from their partner.

                      Most all Narcissists cheat. It has nothing to do with you, but is about the Narcissist.

                      You could be everything they want, and they would still cheat. They get bored, easily, and cannot really love anyone. So, they feel no remorse for cheating.


                    2. No problem. When in a relationship with a Narcissist, we tend to get isolated from our friends and family. Narcissists make this happen so we have no one to turn to, and remain dependent on them (and a variety of other reasons).


  3. One thing that impressed me, Tamara, after reading this post, is how dependent Narcissists are on their victims. Everything, every thought, every scheme, is designed to trap and demean the victim. So completely dedicated are Narcissists to their nefarious purposes, it’s a wonder they even remember how to breathe and fluctuate their hearts.

    How absurdly weak.

    That conclusion leads to a question – have you ever known, either in experience or by rumor, of a Narcissist who recovered himself? After all, most Narcissists didn’t acquire their depravities alone; another Narcissist created the monster initially. As such, no Narcissist can be 100% given to his internal demons. Do you know of any that freed himself?

    Please don’t misunderstand me – I’m not trying to be difficult, nor is there a point I’m trying to make. Just curious, that’s all.

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    1. This is a marvelous question, TA, and I’m so happy you have asked!

      First of all, one of the reasons why Narcissists despise us is because they do need us. They need us to be their mirrors so that they do not have to face themselves, and their massive shame. They will never admit this truth, though.

      I have never known a Narcissist to “heal” even with a therapist, let alone on their own. They delude themselves into thinking their way is perfect, and that it is, we, who are pathetic.

      They cannot change because they feel no need to do so. Their shame is not only hidden from us, but it is also hidden far away from themselves.

      I’m always happy to answer questions, TA.

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      1. Thanks for the answer, Tamara!

        You’re right, curing Narcissists requires a detached self-reflection (“Just what am I trying to do here?”) of which they’re incapable. Hating themselves and belittling others keeps them mired, and they never gain the “altitude” necessary for honest self-examination. Even when their victims, such as you, fly free, Narcissists merely look at the sky blankly, blink a couple times, then plant their faces back in the muck.

        Well, okay, maybe not “never.” I mean, within our species’ countless millennia, I’m sure it’s happened from time to time, but certainly never in your experience.

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