Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

Closure does not exist after Narcissistic Abuse. There is no talking it out with the Narcissist, or mutual parting-of-the-ways.

Many times, in fact, there is a cut-and-dry, total ghosting from the abuser, leaving the victim asking themselves millions of unanswered questions. This often accompanies the dizzying spin-cycle of Cognitive Dissonance and we throw-up in our lime Jello.

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

For the sake of our own sanity, it is imperative that we learn how to provide our own closure. This basic strategy for giving ourselves the gift of closure is through the exercise of self-love and the unfamiliar, useful tool of making it an ongoing habit to trust in ourselves. 

To further the growth in our recovery process after being subjected to the horrors or Narcissistic Abuse, we all need to accept that believing in ourselves comes along with no one else believing in us (enough to offer us adequate validation) for the trauma inflicted upon us by the Narcissist. This is because unless others have experienced such twisted manipulation, it is hard to comprehend.

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse, Tamara Yancosky

 

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

Not only do these Dark Personalities refuse to take any accountability, (unless they can draw us into more of their abuse), but they add further injury and misery via their Silent Treatments and Ghosting antics, leaving us in further search for answers.

Again, the worst part of all, is the abuse-recipient is alone in their aftermath of maddening confusion and tremendous suffering.

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse, Monikajeneva

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

For their abuse, Narcissists want zero exposure;

yet, these Dark Personalities

provide us with no significant closure!

To keep their poison out of our systems,

we need to voice the hidden monstrosities;

so it is they, themselves, 

who cause us the need

to publicize their horrific atrocities!

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse, Tamara Yancosky

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

 To regain our sense of power and the control stripped from us, we need to go through the recovery process without distraction from their further hocus-pocus abuse. This means going No Contact with the abuser (and their funky Flying Monkeys).

Besides self-validation, another important recovery step comprises of sharing our experiences with others who have also suffered at the claws of Narcissists. In this way, we can avoid repressing the details of our injury, and thus deepening the damage to our psyche, and emotional health.

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

We cannot talk it over with the Narcissist. Different individuals use various forms of outlets to gain closure.

Writers will pen about their afflictions, poets will write poems conveying their abuse, singers will sing about their pain, artists will paint or draw images of their flashbacks, and public speakers will get the word out to the public. These are all excellent ways to help ourselves heal.

Closure After Narcissistic Abuse

Going to a therapist to find recovery is not always easy with NPD Abuse. Many healthcare specialists underestimate Narcissistic Abuse. In fact, those who are most able to help victims are those who have suffered, themselves.

Closure after these toxic encounters is important, and believing in ourselves and accepting our pain is a crucial stage of healing our traumatized psyche.

The good news is that we will come out of this stronger than ever! It will take time, though.

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