Abused Men, The Invisible Victims

Abused men and husbands do not get the same validation and support for the injustices they suffer from female violators, as do female victims of abuse, and are often invisible victims.

Male victims are not as vocal about the misery they endure from domestic abuse, as abused females; therefore, less support groups exist for men and husband victims.

Since less support tailored for men exist, these male recipients of domestic terror do not find places of fellowship where they can divulge their horror stories.

This can leave sufferers isolated and alone, often causing unhealthy regression of the hellish experiences in which they have lived through.

Abuse Tactics

Such maltreatment, at the hands of manipulative, dagger-bearing women, might include:

Smearing Victim to Their Friends to Make them Look Like the Abuser;

Covert Manipulation;

False Rape Allegations;

Involving Helpless Children;

Withholding Sex from Husbands;

Isolating Victim from Friends and Family;

Ms. Jekyll/Ms. Hyde Drastic Mood Changes and never knowing what to expect;

Belittling; Gaslighting;

Breaking Victim Financially;

Sabotaging Victim’s Career;

Provoking Romantic Jealously;

Stonewalling;

Child Alienation;

General Provoking and Baiting; (resulting in natural human responses (see: Reactive Abuse), which enable the female abuser to call the authorities on her male target to claim that it is, she, who is the victim); and many other countless, vicious tactics that can be far worse than physical abuse.

 

Abused Men, The Invisible Victims

Dear Men and husbands

Do not feel ashamed. It is not your fault if you are dealing with a cruel woman. Perhaps she changed after the marriage vows were exchanged. You might be dealing with a female Narcissist, an untreated Borderline, or just a user. You are not alone!

Abused Men, The Invisible Victims

Do and Do Not:

Women get away with abusing men simply by merit of being female but here are some suggestions…

Do Not allow yourself to be provoked into getting arrested. Leave, first. (At least until things calm down).

Do Document everything and keep these entries hidden. (Remember to date everything).

Do Work with an advocate from a domestic violence program to get a restraining order. This will help protect you from the abusive woman, provide further documentation, and also allow you to ask for temporary custody of your children.

Do Get counseling so you can start healing, and get legal advice.

Do Talk with your family and friends who can help support you. They will understand!

Do Not lose sight of your identity!

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