Those who attract Narcissists or other abusive partners are often in search of something tangible, yet indescribable. Unconscious voids drive us onward, hoping to fill ancient needs caused from childhood wounds.
In my personal life experience, this ongoing hunger results from childhood neglect, including starvation of parental attention, affection, nourishment, recognition, and overall protection.
Anyone can become targeted by abusive partners such as Narcissistic and Sociopathic Personalities, but it is those who bear untreated wounds from childhood that become willing recipients of such abuse. This results from early grooming, familiarity, unhealthy boundaries, early psychological malnourishment, and/or Codependency, ETC..
We will attract and remain influenced by Narcissists and other predators until we learn to re-parent ourselves with the maternal sustenance we missed as children.