Though being aware of this Beast of Burden, Codependency, does not necessarily cure this lifelong habit, it comforts me with the realization that it is not my job to make everything better for every human being with whom I come in contact.
I mean, some people can snap open their own Sprite Soda cans, and draw their own bath water, right?
Oh, by the way, the kitchen drawer that holds the silverware is no farther of a walk away from the living room, today, than it was yesterday; so, perhaps they actually can manage to get up, and make the three second sprint to get a new fork for themselves (since the last one fell to the floor while they were attempting to maneuver their torso a 180 degree turn, behind them, to call me downstairs to fetch them the channel changer, that was only a couple inches away from their plate).
Of course, the above paragraph is just a bit of humor, and I actually enjoy helping others open their soda cans, and reach for the channel changer; but what my post, here, is really about is the unhealthy enabling of destructive behaviors, such as: abuse, alcoholism, illegal drug use, theft, murder, and other harmful habits. Not enabling others is for their benefit, as well, as ours!
Beast of Burden, Codependency
Codependency is a Beast of Burden in that I can never do or be enough for those whom I try to “fix”, or make happier. Taking everyone else’s faults upon my shoulders is an exhausting job and leaves me unable to take care of myself, emotionally, or even physically.
It is a heavy weight to carry.
It is important to do for others what I can do, but not to play God. In fact, I try to remember to put this Beast of Burden into God’s Hands because, you see, He can handle it, and He wants me to give my troubles to Him. I need only trust, through Jesus’ Name, and not in my own limited abilities.
As a recovering Codependent, I am a Prayer Warrior! God’s got this! (By the way, Got Milk? Oh, that’s just a bit of my OCD efghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz coming into play… don’t ya just love it?)…
On one final and disgusting note: Narcissists and Sociopaths enjoy the fuel of Codependents because we do not easily give up, and we will try to please others until it literally kills us.
Dark Personalities play Codependents with cunning skill to tear us down until we are left entirely dead, inside, with only our shells intact.